You see, my office is ordering business cards soon. As I just started there around Thanksgiving, I do not yet have printed business cards. Nor did I ever have 'official' printed business cards at my previous gig. So I was naturally pretty excited about this. Then I realized that these would last well past May 30 of this year...and I needed to plan ahead.
I had been contemplating what to do about my last name pretty much since we got engaged (ok - before that). The modern, professional, reasonably feminist part of me was a little freaked out about changing my last name. I shouldn't have to change my identity just to get married. That's a sexist patriarchal tradition.
But the other part of me (I guess the romantic, don't over-think it part) thinks that it's sort of fun to get a new last name at some point in life. Because really, when do we just get to decide what to call ourselves? And I believe in family and adopting your dude's last name helps publicly establish that you are a family unit. And, since Don is the only male in his family now that can pass on their last name (no pressure at all for boy-children...) it would be nice to help in the continuation of his family name.
Back to the business cards - I had to seriously commit to a name. I talked to my boss about it a little. And I talked to Don - who was very helpful and told me to do whatever I wanted. Great. But I did make a decision. I'm going to have four names - the 3 I was born with, and a new one at the end. That way everyone will know that I made a decision to be part of a new family. And I can decide to claim or not claim Don as I please. :-) I think it's a good compromise.